In a quick, honest and blunt answer, no

 

It is not something that you choose out of the supermarket aisle to cook at home, just because you feel like tasting different

 

That you open up the package, put it in the microwave and it is good to eat

 

A full meal by itself

 

It is not

 

 

BDSM is just an instrument

 

It is those that wield it that give it value and context

 

It is when there is a source and a destination in mind that it becomes a means to achieve a goal

 

A way to achieve a profound connection to the one who participates with you

 

 

But for that connection to exist, there has to be a predisposition on both sides to do so

 

An interest lying dormant that can be awaken

 

And the willingness to go further with you

 

 

It is true that BDSM can be a solo game

 

And to many it is

 

To explore the pleasures that your body can extract

 

From both the pain and the arousal

 

From being on the edge in the safety of your home

 

Feeling your heart skip a beat

 

Imagining receiving what you feel now from another hand

 

Or even yours applying it to another one

 

 

But it will never be the same as doing with another

 

Just a good way to pass the time

 

Useful nevertheless to prepare you to what you will unleash

 

When you are ready to take the step

 

To use BDSM to transform you and those with whom you share it with

 

 

BSDM is not for you

 

Or even for me

 

It is for us both

 

 

Seeking an opposing role

 

But bound in a single purpose

 

To become united as never before

 

With no covers to use

 

True to our most profound self