The friendship system – Success and failure of online trust

Some slaves have asked me in the past,  if I claim to have such a long number of slaves that have served me in the past, why is my friend list on recon is so small

That has some explainable reasons easy to grasp

The first and more basic is that adding friends can only be done from a premium membership

As very few ever took the initiative to add me in the past, there was not that much to show

I have premium membership since December 2012

The second is that profiles are made and destroyed too quickly

Some time ago, I made a small exercise and selected from my contact list a few spaced nicks from previous contacts I had made

From that list, less than 15% were still in existence

The third reason is that not every slave that I have trained in the past wants to be known to have been under my service

In fact, many are not even able to be associated with anyone to begin with

That happens too much in countries that do not have a gay open community, being Portugal one in that list unfortunately

As a keeper of secrets, I have no interest in the exposure that comes from that

Nevertheless I understand that there has to be a balance between secrecy and exposure, specially in terms of reference points for future contacts

Dating services are made popular by providing an anonymous way of connecting people without having to expose yourself and be seen, touched and evaluated

Photos can be retouched or just be internet pictures that you like, profile data can be faked or “enhanced” to meet your made up ideas about yourself and fantasies can be written down without any physical support to the real you and what you are truly in search of

To help you in that area the friend list on your profile (that I call in a jokingly way as the friendship system) could be a good help

If you were to add every person that you have known personally in the past and that could grade the realness of the profile and the ideas on that he stands for (being in terms of recon if he is a good fucker, fister, fistee, master, slave, dog or whatever they one day invent) it would be nice

Some sites use that concept already and it seems to work out

Nevertheless in a virtual world, friends can just be people that share the same ideas or that have something that you like and you may never have seen in real life

Just because you have a nice text and/or pictures, you may have 200 friends and have met none

As it is now, the friendship system has deep flaws in terms of evaluating a truthful identity of a profile

Each user is free to use and abuse it according to its own views about its purpose

Virtual does not connect with the real and it does not provide any meaningful fulfillment

There are too many fake profiles in any service you may use

Trust is something that has to be earned

Eye to eye

Flesh against flesh

Trust your own judgement about those that you are in contact with

The choice of whom you will meet is yours in the end

Nevertheless if you know me in person and wish to add me to your friend list in recon you are free to do so and to do it as well to all of those that you know

The friendship system is better than nothing, but a mere drop in an ocean

Never enough to really fulfill your thirst